This summer my sister invited me on a trip with her but did not invite my fiance. I think the husband would be the real asshole in the situation AP described though. (hahaha sorry, I know I sound like a hag, but my bitterness mayyy be due to this one guy I know who ALWAYS wants to drag a group of 20 or so people somewhere 5 hours away, for an entire weekend, just because its his birthday. January 15, 2013, 11:38 am. 14 Signs your boyfriend is done with your relationship, 11 Signs he doesnt see a future with you, My Roommate Is Always Home! If it were me, I would strongly request that my husband not go. Post all the fun you are having on Facebook too! And I was right! If he does not help to resolve this issuewhatever it ishe is opening the door for his wife to be excluded from everything and saying its okay for the discord in the family to continue. Addie Pray Mind you this is a 34 year old woman! lets_be_honest by making a big deal out of a birthday, and inviting out of town people, you get to have a nice special time with all your friends and family! 10. Maybe you can meet individual members of his family so its not such an event meeting everyone at the same time. It really does turn on the reason why she is excluded. This is really really important, OP!! Unless they do something unforgivable that cant be easily passed, we should always try to keep on good terms with family. So my boyfriend of around 1.5 years attended a party tonight and he failed to extend an invitation to me. You know she is hitting refresh and reading and re-reading all these comments as much as I am yet, no update with more info. However, I feel like there is a pretty big reason your SIL is excluding you specifically. My husband and I pretty much go with the philosophy of whoevers family it is gets to decide how we deal with them. Sometimes we need to make sacrifices. Guess it depends on what was done to cause this. He didnt write those invitations, so there is really no reason to make it about him. What a nightmare. I even took a 40 minute round trip drive this afternoon to drop him off at another friends house for pre drinks. Fabelle Not even to reply to a tweet. I really think you should be talking to your boyfriend about this, we can't give you any reasonable advise based on the 2 sentence conversation you guys had. Its a party. A Concerned Girlfriend Took To Reddit Seeking The Advice Of Other Users After Learning That Her Boyfriend Planned A Vacation With His Female Best Friend And Did Not Invite Her. I would kick his sorry Ass to the kerb. Well, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and have known him well for about 7 years. So by that logic, your SIL has every right to invite whomever she wants. If they wanted me there, they would have invited me. Thats all you need to say. The family likely already knows this or will find out. Obviously, there are issues between you and his family, so do you feel as though your husband, historically, hasnt defended you enough or given you as much support as youd like? LOL..all that was missing from the original letter was an alas. So if the LW slapped the SILs child and berated her MIL to the point of tears, she should still be welcome? alright. What boyfriend doesn't invite his girlfriend to his birthday party? Some are worth putting your foot down about, and some just arent. I know that I am not perfect, but neither are they, yet, I have tried very hard to fit in because I really loved them and wanted to be a big part of his family. Sue Jones For these reasons, talk to your close friends, preferably ones who know the party thrower or host. You have a right to be upset. LW, I think you should either flat out ask your husband what the f is going on or call your SIL and ask her what the f is going on. Leave marital advice to the pros, counsellors. But, you don't want to then walk around resenting the party host, or even having negative feelings toward other friends of yours who attended the party despite your lack of invitation. March 24, 2018, 4:57 am. For all we know, he could have. Where is the LWer?? My administration overlooks me and ignores me as well Doing a little recon helps you see if there is a pattern Even at work On the other hand, extending your chest is a good idea for your flirting skills Most of the time flirts just aren't perceived as flirting Most of the time flirts just aren . SHE is his primary family now. When you accidentally bump into him on a night out, he refuses to hold your hand or dance with you. If you are calm enough to take the high road, usually you are clear enough to set boundaries.and if her hubby is just being rude and hopping on the bandwagon (if that is whats going on) then it will be clear to her. GatorGirl !, ebstarr So I tell my husband up front "I'm going to a party you'd hate, stay home and watch TV all night, here are a ton of snacks, have fun!" If he doesnt, its possible he has a problem with one or more of his family members and is on bad terms with them. make a big deal out of mardi gras, your birthday, your vow renewal, saturday- its cool with me. 4. You did way too much for a party you weren't going to or even invited to. Copyright 2023 Dear Wendy. 10 blunt-but-loving ways to tell people they're not invited to your wedding While there's no way to make everyone happy, I do believe that there are a few key phrases you can use to let uninvited guests to that you love them, you SO appreciate their interest, but no: they're still not invited. Non hereditary Hair loss? G A S P, lets_be_honest ill be there. Melissa Well if thats the case, there are those cracks in her marriage. And, for what its worth, if the SIL had written in and said the LW was a terrible, no good rotten person who she loathed and she just wanted to invite her brother to her party and not his wife, my advice would have been that like her or not, the LW is her brothers wife and the SIL has to respect that. January 15, 2013, 11:28 am. If he did not succeed, the LW would at least know that he tried and together they could make a decision about whether he should go to Chicago without her. Tell us about your Rush Hour Crush by submitting them here, and you could see your message published on the site. March 25, 2018, 1:56 am. My husbands opinion is that a mailed invitation would have been really bad, but that the text method was only kind of bad. Just because they wouldnt expect or request those things, doesnt mean its not normal to offer. Theres not a lot you can do about it, but I love the suggestion of a phone call after; once your husband gets back from the party. Just bc you dont think birthdays are a big deal, why does everyone have to agree with that? They get the best of both worlds in that scenario. I dont feel so bad for the husband. And she immediately left and filed for divorce? His family, his veto, he gets to chose. January 15, 2013, 10:42 am. But, on this one, he married the LW, hes still married to her and he owes her the loyalty of declining the invitation. If you and your husband are united in your battles, that makes the challenges and burdens much easier to navigate that if you arent. 152. January 15, 2013, 2:34 pm. Is he perhaps having an affair with someone there? It doesnt mean shes insecure in her marriage. Even if I couldnt stand him and thought he was the worst person in the world, I would invite him to make my family happy. but does that exclude you from ever interacting with anyone who doesnt like your spouse? Addie Pray I've always subscribed to the it not the "If you have a partner, then there's no . 18. fallenflower. January 15, 2013, 3:56 pm. January 15, 2013, 11:43 am. Theyre just bitter, unhappy, horrible people. Because she is evil and controlling? Really, if this is all on the LW, and I get were all assuming it is, but it may not be, her husband should demand that she do whatever it takes to mend fences anyway. lbh but it isnt an issue between 2 adults in the same standing, it is an issue between 2 families, and the husband is straddling the two. January 15, 2013, 3:11 pm. All of a sudden it is so important that he is there. anyway, i would tell her to be the bigger person and try to fix this mess. January 15, 2013, 9:24 pm. I've been dating my boyfriend for three years. January 15, 2013, 11:02 am. You've made a lot of progress. There is obviously a reason why she wasnt invited and judging by the comments the LW made, I can see why. How to Deal with a Roommate Who Is Inconsiderate: 10 Tips! Weve had some very stressful times that challenge a marriage but have ultimately made us stronger. Like I said earlier, for most people, its a big deal introducing a girlfriend, partner, etc to their family. If the LW did something to make herself unwelcome then thats on her. reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2014): A
I was thinking too more like what is going on between you and this SIL in why to though. Whatever way you have to find out, esp since you confirmed that you do have children so I guess your hubbys fun family weekend means you get to stay at home and care for the kids!?! Beer and football with his family? My advice is a bit different. You'll work it out.". Like I am a weak girlfriend. He is the natural player to broker a peace and is doing nothing to help! Its not so different in families. it sucks that families dont get along, but it happens.. it sucks when new family members dont get along, but it happens. Is this party SO AWESOME you need to cause some huge problem over it? He has his own consequences since lord knows he doesnt want to be in the middle of his family and his wife. This is all assuming he had a reason to say such a thing, like you previously and often saying you don't like big parties, refusing to go, complaints, etc. In fact the only times things are explicit is if someone is NOT invited. My husband and I got together both with kids from a previous marriage we have a 11 mo of our own! ), Im also HIGHLY suspicious that maybe the husband wants to go by himselffor whatever reason? Skyblossom If you want to remain uninvolved because you are not invested in either side or you dont want to upset anyone. I planned a college tour to a school my oldest son was interested in to kill time and my husband and I meet up at the house after the graduation. But people have their own ways of doing things, and that's perfectly fine. Do not make him choose between his wife and his sister, it turns you from victim to villain. Something ain't right there. Im going thru the exact same scenario with my husband. I guess its because I feel so terrible about not being invited but yet he is still choosing to go. So let your husband go to the party, stop pitting him against his family, and stop basing the stability of your marraige on his willingness to dump his family for you. I just want to say that in general, you shouldn't expect other people to behave the way you would behave. January 15, 2013, 10:09 pm, Sue Jones Actually, I agree with Amybelle and Fabelle only to this extent: Is is super annoying when the adult birthday girl or boy expects people to do so much for their birthdays. also, if you cant grasp the fact that he will want to see his family (no matter how you and the family feel about each other), you also have no hope. Im a guy and find it disrespectful. If you dont deserve it then be glad there is geographic distance between you and them and talk to your husband about establishing boundaries with his family. That is pretty far out of the way to go to something your spouse wasnt invited to. Well I didnt really mean that no adult should celebrate their birthday, but its not a big deal which is why the husband should stay home if the wifes not invited (for any reason). Im not advocating for ending the relationship with the SIL over this snub. They tend to be a bit unhinged. Im surprised no ones asked this, but are you *sure* youre not invited? by not making a fuss about the husband going, the LW will be taking the high road, and above all, be telling the family that what they do doesnt personally effect her, which it shouldnt anyway. I am more forgiving than he is once he sees a persons bad side like they have shown him. He, Candice Conner The wedding situation seems especially odd because weddings are where two people become a family, so to excluse someone elses spouse on the basis of them not being family at an event where you are becoming a family with your SO is pretty hilariously hypocritical. But has chosen not to. To me the question isnt Is it worth him not going and adding to the fight? The question for me is Is it worth him going (which entails quite a travel) when it could cause problems with his wife, and his absence could easily be explained by the distance?. And I got carded. You aint gonna be the next Kim and Kanye with a fool like him Nope. They don't shun me because of anything I did. I am AMAZED that you advised this woman that it does not affect the integrity of her marriage if her husband attends a family gathering in which SHE..his wife..is deliberately excluded! Great In Laws Who Just Don't Trust Anyone I think like Wendy said things need to be smoothed over between the two of them, but after the party. I dont see how youre putting someone out by inviting them somewhere. GatorGirl Whether your SIL is just mean and doesnt like you, or whether youve done something so off-putting to her that she doesnt want you around on her birthday. When I turned 40 I had some drinks with a few friends, I certainly wouldnt have been offended or upset at anyone who didnt want to come for any reason, because my birthday is not a big deal. Both choices are of course nuanced by the possibility of husband calling his sister and saying he would like his wife to be invited and asking why she wasnt. Possibly, your date will mention a party or get-together to which you'll be invited. He doesnt make you feel like one of the most special people in the world (try not to vom down yourself). They do it because they are evil and know it and they have to blame the victim. If you are not for me, you are against me. I wouldnt have invited her either. January 15, 2013, 12:17 pm, Yeah, we really dont have a lot of information to go on here. On the night of the occasion to which you weren't invited, don't stay home feeling sorry for yourself. Thank god for my husband! January 15, 2013, 11:49 am. All of a sudden it is so important that he is there but not his family. Props! Both were personality driven things. But a call afterward would be. Ive never written to an advice column before and found Wendy by Googling for advice. January 15, 2013, 3:24 pm, http://dearwendy.com/my-wife-isnt-invited-to-my-brothers-wedding/. bethany or shes looking to us to agree to some basic principles that a lot of people live their lives and marriages by that once you become a new family unit your old one becomes secondary in importance. Usually because he has vital nights out with the boys hes forgotten about. To insinuate she has a responsibility to force her way in sohe doesnt start thinking she doesnt care about him (?) It hurts my feelings. Thankfully, we live far away from this SIL, and his other sister feels as I do about the Clampetts, so we have each other with whom to commiserate. But, baring some major reason, if you invite someone, you need to invite their spouse. So if the LW hasnt stole/hit/cheated on the SIL then I think the husband needs to get to the bottom of it. Otherwise, she might be as surprised as you were to find out you werent invited by your husband. Does the rest of the family exclude her? i agree. just dont go. I will never trust you, I cannot have my whole heart invested in our marriage because you have broken my heart in two. Its worth looking at the larger picture here and asking yourself if hes keeping you a secret from his family, or just doesnt want you to meet them? So, in that sense, yes SIL has won, she has caused LW and her husband to fight and created the situation where husband has accepted her invitation against his wifes wishes. If he cannot do that then were doomed! 7. Its not longer a source of deep pain the way it was many years ago. And, if the husbands family is so awful that theyd exclude someone like this with no real justification, thats an issue to be addressed, too. It could be anywhere from a Facebook comment taken the wrong way to stealing money. Because, if he shows any signs of social anxiety or awkwardness in public, those feelings are going to be intensified at a family event. Sue Jones I do think this is totally unacceptable a married couple is a unit. yea, i guess that is true if you look at it that way. Hmmm is it possible that they used to kick it together with mutual friends and she kind of just was hoping to reconnect and party and hey what better way to do that than her upcoming bday? Some people were kind of cold, but everyone was polite and made an effort to re-include herMy point is, I never understood alienating or refusing to invite the significant other of a relative when it comes to family events unless said person is physically or emotionally abusive or prone to huge, drunken, racist tirades. Yesterday he was at my place, and said hes going out for drinks, so I didnt ask anything, assuming he was going out with his colleagues, but still felt it was a bit rude but I just thought to myself Im over sensitive about it. January 15, 2013, 1:39 pm. So I'm not up for it. So this Friday he has a birthday coming up and my birthday follows just two days after. This is over. Are you sure youre not invited? Do any other commenters wonder if its the husband orchestrating this and not the SIL? New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. So ask him. If someone really likes you, he wouldn't want you to celebrate a holiday without him. He's putting aside any negative feelings he may have toward their mother, not to mention any selfish feelings he may have about being his own man and doing his own thing.. Required fields are marked *. Highly doubt it though. seriously, why would you even want to go if they are just a bunch of terrible people who hate you for no reason and would go to such lengths to let you know how they feel? I think if it wasnt a valid reason then she would have pursued getting an invite or a reason why not first, then asked her husband to stay home. If my bf ever did this, I would tell him I know he had a party and didn't invite me, and I am not interested in being his girlfriend anymore. Im with GG that he should still maintain a relationship with his family, but traveling that far is way too much for an event his wife wasnt invited to. So in Wendys about me section it should say my stupid husband left the toilet seat up again. Wendy, have you ever replied to a letter asking for more info before you can give advice? However, you need to keep in mind that: There are reasons why he leaves you alone at parties. He wants you there Im sure, he just doesnt want you to do anything embarrassing. Amybelle wendykh Im torn on this letter. Thats right, LW, send along a NICE gift and let the SIL feel totally embarrassed and awkward! female
I totally agree. Which is why I think the husband should talk to his sister and explain she is being crazy. January 15, 2013, 9:53 am. he's a sweet guy and people on the forums said he likes me. i agree, LBH. I know! He doesnt need to stay home with you for him to know you guys are a unit. January 15, 2013, 10:46 am. Leave the drama in Chicago and simply say good riddance. Its not going to come across well if the LW calls the sister up and asks for an explination. one of my high school boyfriends family was like this. I would not expect nor respect a decision if my brother chose to leave his wife home and travel for this party. Just dont make this more difficult on him than it already is. They are selfish and manipulative. So not only was I not invited initially, I accepted that and made myself busy. so shouldnt she, then, be the adult in this situation? That's definitely not a good reason either, but don't accuse him of something just in case it wasn't his fault you weren't invited. New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don't want to drive your boyfriend around so he could prepare for a party you're not going to, you could have said "I can appreciate that your car is not working. If this were the first time you felt this way you probably wouldn't have posted. It's unfair to put it entirely on her, especially in a ltr where he seems aware of her basic needs w/r/t her anxiety, etc. He says that he understands why Im hurt and doesnt deny that I was purposely excluded, but, at the end of the day, the greater slight would be to his sister if he was not there to support her. I agree. Things like; putting his friends before you, not being attentive to you, not making an effort, hanging out less and less, and so on. 40 is half way to death (assuming youre lucky enough to make it to 80). if you cant weather this, you have no hope. Im with you that its incredibly rude that you werent included in the invitation to your SILs 40th birthday party. If thats the case, where SIL refuses to invite new family members, SIL is a crappy person. Wait until he's in a more normal state of mind. Just this one event? You just cant work him out. January 15, 2013, 9:40 am. January 15, 2013, 1:49 pm, None of the scenarios you suggest seem true here, however, especially since the LW oh so conveniently failed to mention any of them. How comfortable is your boyfriend in social situations in general? Does your boyfriend go to family events without you? BUT. He's super close with his family & I have a good relationship with them as well. there was an update on that wasnt there? Could it possibly in any way be an oversight, or could she have assumed that you two would know you were also invited? You are also agreeing to our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. nope. Thanks mom and dad. January 15, 2013, 11:01 am. 9. Ive told him my feelings and I do feel that my role is now to take the high road and not be petty. Im act like an adult! Update: talked to him yesterday, said he was sorry and he thought I didnt like the places they hang out, and today none of his friends said hi to me, so lol, gg mates, thanks everyone. After all, when its someone elses party its usually common courtesy to ask if you can take someone else. So the i do except some times i dont would most assuredly clearly signify a question of your commitment your love and your agenda because when you are married you have an unspoken vow that NO ONE SHOULD EVEN HAVE TIME TO ASK ARE YOU GOING that vow isI love you through thick or thinI love you and promise to protect you to walk hand in hand through lifes ups and downsyou didnt promise to go steady.you promised to love and honorso by attendingby not bringing everyone together to find a solution like grown ups by ignoring the BLATENT and very public humiliation of being the family member the other half of your husband the uninvited family member is a passive aggressive public humiliation and your attendance is a clear choice to side with hurting you. Then if he still goes without you you got some serious thinking to do.But when you are doing that serious thinking do it at a very expensive spa weekend. I know that its her wedding & its what she wants but I just kind of feel some type of way bc Ive wanted them to come & do things with us & included them in thins out here .. & idk I just feel as if my feelings were kind of hurt. ), My Roommate Has No Friends! Fabelle Nothing. The reasons I have seen PEOPKE not take sides is due to their own 2 faced behaviourthese people usually play both sides of the fence and are usually opportunistic people. AS I wrote above your new family the woman you married and perhaps the children you may have should come before your old family in terms of general priorities. Youve never actually seen him in daylight because all your plans happen to be at night. He hasnt cut down on nights out with the boys since meeting you, at all. Questions - he asked me to take him to find an outfit. Because when I think about all the possible background stories here, my advice ranges from divorce your husband, you deserve better to divorce your husband, he deserves better and lots of things inbetween. They are very similar personalities. AMAZING! Does anyone remember the Dear Prudence where a woman was getting sick after eating at her MILs house every time and in a follow up switched the gravy tureens with her husband and then her HUSBAND got sick and blamed her for trying to poison him? It will suck your soul away you will always be the bad guy and you will never win. November 24, 2018, 9:46 am. ok, im back to agreeing with you. Really, hes the only one to feel bad for if you ask me. So I guess I dont really have any advice. But this line stood out to me: (Heres How to Handle It), 24+ Clean Comebacks for Bullies Thatll Make You Smile, Is My Boss a Narcissist Quiz (10 Questions to Help You Find Out! The type of function it is should ever ever be an invite to only one partner! And, if its the familys problem, then he should decline to support their efforts to exclude the person he chose to marry and spend his life with. I'd rather enjoy my free time rather than put the work in and feel resentful of your good time. Divorcing him would prevent me from getting hurt over and over again. But like anything else? I am with Wendy on this one. For anything. so, instead of being around a bunch of people I do not know or my children (our children dont know her either, which is my problem with her) do not know. My boyfriend was like you, not interested in meeting any of my friends or doing anything together. I got my panties all in a bunch in the first months I knew them because they never invited me places, but . January 15, 2013, 3:47 pm. So, message received. GatorGirl January 15, 2013, 2:11 pm. GatorGirl with a gushy note and an apology that sorry you couldnt make it as if you were actually invited paid for from your husbands credit card, of course! Her boyfriend of two years, with whom she'd been sharing an apartment in southern Oregon for a few. Which indicates more and more that there is something more at play between the LW and his family, that she knows or thinks she wasnt invited. drawing unnecessary lines in the sand is just making the problem worse and worse for everyone involved. January 15, 2013, 11:46 am. I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. My (30m) boyfriend has never invited me (24f) to hang out with his friends even though their girlfriends always come along. Those are things that families do for each other. that is a big deal. This shouldnt undermine the entire integrity of you marriage. that is a pretty legit thing, and if i remember right we have had letters about that before. What is so wrong with wanting to have fun though, because that to me is all a birthday party is. 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