7. Him (10 minutes of silence while he is online): lol What? All I see anymore are complaints and frustrations related to texting. Seriously. Such a crybaby. I have felt the beginnings of self doubt and sadness; and even anger. Going down this path because something is better than nothing can actually make your heartbreak so much more intense, so bad that it causes some women depression. Lost and confused. Just let me know, but he sworn that there wasnt another woman. Ive been trying to understand what happened. Went on 3 dates with a guywe got on really well, I could tell he likes me (hes been checking me out for a long time) so the last date he spent hours just kissing my hands and face, holding me and telling me how much he likes me; poof! he knows that this would drive me nuts! I think after six months it was high time you asked where the relationship was headed, and it should have a title by then. I know I made the mistake of not having an exclusive talk after we slept together (and no, it wasnt until a couple of weeks and a few dates in), but I am not a serial dater and I dont sleep around. I educated my self enough to let go. Do you accuse him straight away? However, if you have been in this situation, you know how much it hurts when you know someone is deliberately laying games with your feelings! Its been amazing getting to know you but this is where I let you go. He wanted to lone wolf it. He called me every day and we hung out a numerous amount of times. We ended up spending 24hours together and had a really great conversation and I was supportive about the journey he was on, fresh out of his relationship and encouraging him to figure it out. If he doesnt ask for it back- does he really not want to see me again that much??! As we walked to the train station I made a joke (im very sarcastic) about knowing how to make my way home if I had sneaked out early as he lives by a landmark. He said he thought we needed to break up because he didnt care anymore. Nothing from him for two days now and he left me with no transportation to work knowing I really had no one else to help me. at the end, I am away from heartache. A simple text as your last move is what puts your mind at rest. But the key here, is to remain strong and not contact him. I fell in love and planned a trip back there this summer. for the next few months he wrote me from time to time and i kept hoping that he must still fell for me but i only felt worse, uncertain, guilty for i dont know what and wasnt able to move on. I know I mustnt take it personally, but still it hurts because I feel like he didnt really mean it when he told me what a great girl I am :(, Hi I am new to this dating thing, we were used to doing it the old fashion way before the Internet was around. Both to apologize one said hed literally met his now wife shortly thereafter and was just a chicken-sh!t to not tell me that and the other said he was going through a really bad patch (unexpected death in the family). Why would he change so suddenly? So I would keep doing these little attention seeking ploys and basically I would intentionally self sabotage myself and thus push her away. This just happened to me! I have been dating someone for one month maybe 6 dates. This guy isnt very good at juggling his adult responsibilities- he should have communicated with you a lot better, but hes afraid or uninterested in that so he just fades away. Im so confused and hurt right now and have no clue what the hell happened. I have been separated for about 2 years, and went online to chat. Mind you I didnt do anything wrong. I just recently got ghosted. Funny how dissapearance happens very often during the xmas time.I had similar situation.Did not hear a word from him for a week and then he responded to me that he wanted a peaceful xmas without a phone.But I was worried that something might have happenend to a person. Update: before he left he send message that he was sorry that we didnt had chance to spend more time before his vacation. Different than his. Im not ready to label him a jerk and walk away. 3 weeks ago when I was in the hospital for a week after suffering my first seizures while at work, my ghost had had enough. Several days ago, my friends, who didnt know that me and him are no longer together, met him at the bar. My 7 year old daughter was highly involved as well. He said I was trying to get attn. I assumed it was just the alcohol. I was shocked. This is the second time hes done this to me. Oh god, maybe youre right and he just wants sex O_____O (did you read we were close friends since we met 5 years ago? Let him know that you have your standards and that youre not willing to discard them just because you like him. And it feels so much better. I never text him too. I am in this crappy situation also, I have been dealing with this guy for a looong time. I stopped caring years ago as Ive encountered too many disappointments with getting emotionally used. Hes 40, and even though I thought it might be too soon, had me meet his 6-yr-old about 1.5/ 2 months in (twice). This is your time to make the right decision. ( I dont smoke or drink by choice) I do have a lot of friends who do and I told him that as long as drinking and smoking is not a habit and a life style. 4 the top 5 Reasons why he Disappears (and how to avoid these traps) Reason Men Disappear #1 He's Great, But You Make Him Extraordinary you've been on a few dates with a guy and you're feeling good about things. Shannon, to be honest with you. the thing is, i know i deserve more and i know i dont like him that much anymore because of what he did but to be treated this way just hurts on a deep level. You are obviously on here too. ?IVE NEVER BEEN SO IN LOVE. Its been 3 weeks now. To show up at his house in costume lingerie? I care about him and we had been seeing each other for awhile. I dont know what to think, unless going back to his family has made him realise there is no future for us [I am of a different culture and religion] and I guess eventually he wants to move back there. I guess I have to take my pick because hell never admit any of these reasons. Simply having a man around who is loyal and considerate might be enough for you- but those two qualities are shared by thousands and thousands of interchangeable men, and putting them on a pedestal for it wont make them feel special- just generic. I just wanted to let you know that it was great getting to know you but this is where I draw the line. FML,,The only reason I have tolerated this so far was because I really liked him as a person before getting attracted to him as a man..so I am looking for that person who I started liking before things got all weird and before he started acting wishy washy. When your ex finds random excuses to contact you and message you, it's definite that your ex misses you. He has done this the whole 4 years together. One minute, all fun and loving . after that question I wrote how come hasnt he answers me its been two days and he hasnt replied so iam wondering since he was finishing up his paper waist because hes super busy or did he lose instreasted in me after that question I asked him and why I really like him did I chase him away with something I asked him?? Thank you for sharing, Charnel. Find someone new to spend time with, go out with your friends. I texted when I got home and told him I really enjoyed the night. He has never gone this long ever before without contacting me. Actively cheating (yes, girlfriends count). Now thats not confusing at all *sarcasm*. Sadly women do this as well, its the i dont want to be alone tonight syndrome- and its not that they want to score, theyd just like some sap theyre 10% interested in to pay for dinner. We had a (what I thought) was a really fun night with this friends and roommates, and I decided to spend the night. The guy Ive been seeing told me he could see us being happily married and that he hoped that our kids had my eye colour. My husband passed about 5 months ago and I just started dating again in the last month. I think it gets complicated the older you are and if there are kids, etc., etc. In fact, you have everything to gain because you will find out if you matter to him or not. He would make it seem like life was stressing him out. Hopefully you and I will come out of this not too damaged. It sucks !!! That was the first time he disappeared. We had a lovely farewell, I had lots of calls from him at the airport and then one or two when he arrived with them there is a time difference. I know what youre about Even though a part of you knows that he doesnt deserve you reaching out to him, the other part still desperately wants to do it. That was it . I hope youre doing well. Dont give up, Girl..Love is Out There waiting for you!!!! If thats the case, he probably never got over her/the end of their marriage. Girls will come up with all kinds of deluded reasons why they absolutely must initiate contact. To add insult to injury, hes completely re-updated his tinder profile and has been very active so I know hes on his phone. Feel free to go as crazy as you like in this letter. No explanation. Then he dissapeared on Sunday. In our first conversation after two months. He just left like that? We swapped pictures and he seemed really happy with what he saw.. (He lives a couple of hours away and works nights and weekends.) he said he dont want me to get closer, but he still wanna see me and love to be with me (hangout).. its just he is afraid that he dont get to the place where i want him to be.. he said he is sorry for him self because he knows how amazing woman I am. If smn looses interest why asks to do smth on weekend. Relationships can be beautiful, but the dating part before you have a real connection can be brutal. My dream guy came to me and was eager to talk to me and I was very hesitant to talk to him because I have been single for two years and when he came in my life trying to really get to know me I couldnt let him down. He told me about a birthday party he was going to on Saturday. The textes started to get flirty and very sex heavy. A day before valentines day we were texting and laughing at each other and he was supposed to pick me up that day after work but didnt answer my call so I thought he fell asleep. You feel that sense of refreshing, like I moved on. Move on. You need to LET GO. It was Friday and we had such a good time and he didnt say he wanted to hang out. How long should I give him to reach out before I lose hope completely? The meetings starts getting canceled and then I was out for business trip for 2 consecutive months and then went to my home country. Heart broken. Perhaps you were feeling she was a bit narcissist for your comfort level and was going to be too much work for you. He talked and complained about work. The 3rd month was the last time he told me he loved me and he eventually stopped replying to my text messages. Two days go by, I tried calling him, he didnt call back. I would be running for the hills. The feeling of being bonded to a man is a powerful force. No question. And I was so broken cas this guy did so mcij for me and made me feel so special but now Im drowning in self doubt and cant help but think its cas of looks or he hated my personality. I have been with someone for three months . For the first time in 4 mos he didnt reply back quickly and it was because his mom was sick. So we chatted. Its been a week and a half and nothing! Either that or he simply decided hes not that into you. He has a habit of responding late or worst not responding at all to my messages and he has his reasons. That he went through a rough patch and ghosted and is now back and wants a second chance. Told me about his work issues and finances he needs to fix. Could it be a red flag? Take my latest ghosting She was unemployed, had no capital, was in debt, no direction, no ambition, too emotional, divorced, 34 years old (Im 27), lived with mommy, no education, 5 tattoos, 2 abortions, and was clearly on the path towards obesity (hard to tell from her fraudulent and misleading online pics). Anyone who can disappear like that sucks badly. We were great, everyone thought, and we spent almost a month in loving bliss. No idea. i believe in this simple rule: if a man wants a woman, he would find a way how to be with her. I didnt hear from him and waited until this week (week 9) to email him and see how he was going and were his head was at. The non-responses and blatant unfriending of you then asking for time = hes being a coward to you. Then when decided to forget him and move on he texted me again after that weekend only saying something like Hey pretty I ignored him. He, on the other hand, grew up to be sort of overweight and greasy looking, less well carried on a shorter man. I told him I would respect his need for space, and that I hoped we were not too broken to find our way back to each other. And most of the time, they will reason that the girl is probably on the same page so there is no need to reach out. if they dont treat us how we deserved to be treated then good luckif we dont see each other again then Ill see you in heaventhats if you get there! Just as I started to allow myself to fall for him, he began to lessen up on the contact and would take hours (if not days) to respond to a text message. So I just tried to be there for him and support him thru it. When I left we are still on speaking terms, because I was very calm and spoke to him with respect like he should of done me. I pretty much pushed to meet although the agreement to go for a drink was mutual. He was such a gentleman through out the trip that I could see myself falling in love. I sent him a message that evening to say I hoped he had not had too bad a day considering the lack of sleep and inevitable hangover, that I was sorry I had got so drunk but that I thought he was lovely and Im glad we met up. I found him on the dating website we met on with a new profile picture up stating he was still looking for a relationship. OMFG lady. xxx. After that, maybe hell come up with a reason why he hasnt been in touch, or maybe hell just say something like, What are you up to this weekend?, If he inquires about your plans but doesnt actually ask you out directly, heres when you can try the porcupine technique., Imagine if someone threw you a porcupine. He took pictures with me there, selfies and looked so happy and we held hands and walked a lot anyways we got back to Monday gone I realised that he had deleted me off Facebook I sent him a hello message but he never responded, I am heartbroken and I dont know what happened My friends went back to him and he gave them his number to give me.. 18 years later he called me back FINALLY. Then I do a freak out text saying I guess its over and basically saying it was so disappointing and throw out all my issues I have had with guys and wish he could have just done me a solid to talk to me and not do this fade out act. I am a well educated woman with a great career. Clearly theres a lot of better men out there for you. Hes that tall and dark and charismatic and funny and sweet guy that everyone loved. He told me to stop. I texted him good luck at the job the night before he started he says thanks :), then I didnt reply till a few days later to see how he was doing we texted back and forth a bit then he stopped, he then texts me two days later to see how I was doing I told him I been going through some stress and all he says was you need anything I am always here for you to talk, this was the first time since we been dating that not once he initiated to see me at all that weekend or anything just texting back and forth and him replying every few hours, I texted him the day after to ask about his weekend then texts me over a day later to say it was good how about you I replied same good weekend also then after that poof never texts me again barely see him on Facebook anymore literally pulled a ghost on me I never been so confused about something like this in my life and I just have this emptiness inside and I cant stop myself from crying, why couldnt he just tell me from the last time I saw him he doesnt want to see me anymore, why text me first then slowly drift away, why drop me when I accepted all his flaws and try to comfort him Everytime he had an episode, why let me meet your family and friends when I wasnt anything serious to you, all these questions stuck in my head like glue and no answers, I know that it takes time to move on but really how can a person just be heartless and cruel like that, its been two weeks, and I hadnt hit him up after he bailed on me cause of family troubles and he hasnt hit me up either. Im so confused and stress with this situation. If Im not worth a reply text, youre not worth my time.
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